How’s your week going? Today, mine happens to be fine. Good actually. But that’s not always the case.

Sometimes it’s just irritating.

Things are hard when they don’t have to be.

People are grumpy. They don’t listen. They make a lot of assumptions.

My friends are going through a tough time when I’m not. How inconvenient is that?

Sometimes I’m frustrated because I’m in between frustrating or saddening things, like when two people I care about don’t understand each other. Or when someone makes a choice to be hurt about something and it isn’t really about them and I don’t want them to be hurting.

So many little things that go wrong. Why does it have to be hard?

Ah, you know what? I’m never going to get a satisfactory answer to that question. And it just sounds whiney, anyway. I’m not in the mood to be whiney.

So then, what should I do? What can I do? How can I fix it?

Lots of times when we’re in situations that need fixing, we ask ourselves what someone wise would do. Or someone compassionate, or sensitive, or capable or just go ahead and pick your adjective.

What would Jesus do? What would Buddha do? What would Mother Theresa do? What would Papa do? Or the one I ask most often: what do I think Maya Angelou would do?

Aren’t those pretty questions? Well, yes, but they don’t really matter. I’m not Jesus, Buddha, or Maya. I can’t channel them. So what they would do just isn’t super relevant except as a point of reference.

What does matter is what I do, because I am here now. I have my own stuff to contribute – gifts, talents, perspectives, hugs, challenges and more. I’m here for a reason, so why don’t I put myself to good use? I’m not usually called to be much of a fixer, so that’s not why I’m here.

If “what would (insert super amazing person’s name here) do in this situation?” isn’t the best question, what is?

How about this: “What would you have ME do?” You can ask it of your higher power, of the universe, of God, of your best self or your best friend or whoever you are called to ask.

What color is that question? I think it’s a turquoise question. It’s a question of individuation, of creativity. It’s also a coral questions, because it’s about contribution and support. It’s a gold question, because it’s a wise, intuitive question. Oh heck, you know what? It’s a rainbow thinking question.

What would you have me do?

In the meantime, remember these things: You are loved. We are all loved. Let’s all be kind. And in all things – progress, not perfection!

Maggie