We make plans.
Sometimes things change in a big way.
Sometimes we know what to do.
Sometimes we don’t know what to do. We are overwhelmed. We are confused.
If we look inside and are honest, confusion is usually masking fear. Fear of feeling something. Fear of getting it wrong. Fear of losing something. Fear of the unknown.
Letting fear win is paralyzing. Overwhelm is paralyzing…
…which leads to an absence of intentional, deliberate action. It’s not the same as apathy, but it has the same effect.
We have to unwind our overwhelm one small step at a time. One decision at a time.
My friend recently reminded me that in these times where things are changing so dramatically and quickly, that we can ask ourselves “what does this make possible for today?”
In my early 12-step journey, I was afraid all the time. I lived in fear and overwhelm. I learned the magical phrase just for today. If I could choose to do what was possible for just for today, then I had a decent chance to make it one more day.
In my recovery, I learned the power of stringing days together, and I realized that huge things can be accomplished one day at a time.
Recently, every morning I have chosen to look at what is possible for today. There have been days when I realized that what I had planned was just not possible…but something else is possible. Many people are asking the same question: “what can I do?” I have been astounded and inspired and very, very emotional. And curious, because asking “what is possible for today?” is asking a very powerful question.
True curiosity is openness – and we open up to take the small actions we can take today.
I promise you, a small action feels so much better than no action. I promise you that small actions add up. Yours, mine, ours. Our big visions are made reality one day at a time.
You will do good. Even if you make a mistake. Because remember, you are good.
In the meantime, remember these things:
You are loved. We are all loved. Let’s all be kind. And in all things – progress, not perfection!
Love and light,